I regret my struts! Please Mr Smith... Make them go away.

[BechMeister]

So.. I spend the most of yesterday evening and this morning fighting a banana rocket.. putting up a station. 
Because the station part kept bend out of the faring i ended up strutting it in place like mad. Now... on the module i put up i had a tiny little "drone" with RCS thrusters to take modules coming up and installing them.. I read somewere that struts are not an issue and will disappear when you decouple. Now.. there lies the issue, i dont want to decouple but undock... and i cant.

Here is a picture for reference:

 

Now - I 've read you can go matrix style and edit the structure in the save file and remove the struts? Alternatively... i will have to disconnect the arm.. deorbit it and have it crash.. send up a new one and fight the rendevouz procedure and correct my error. But.. 

Is there anything i can do?

[Kerbart]

Don’t launch a tall 2.5m top heavy load on top of a small 1.25m do king port. Couldn’t you have launched that part upside down? So that the booster is attached to the wide part?

[BechMeister]

I actually launched it with the orange part up. But the entire thing kept break out of my faring any way. So... in the end i just strutted everything. Is there no way you can remove a strut in space once put there?  I guess not. I used the orange part to push the part into place... I intended to use it as a space forklift.  in the future.

Any way... ill just ditch that part and send it up again... Once i find out how to make Clamp-o-tron St. undock... 

[Kerbart]

I have a hard time imagining how that tiny orange piece breaks out of the fairing by itself when it's on top. If it's the entire thing, then strutting the top part isn't going to do much?