Yeah I was really proud of this ship up until this point, usually I'm pretty good at planning ahead but I feel stumped here.
As far as the lander design, I did actually stick all the science modules on top of the main pod, which I guess could be a major source of drag, but I can't see it being enough to completely kill all my dV like this.
Fuel lines are actually attached to the Rockomax adapter between the engine and the main fuel tank. I thought that would be alright but it seems like they aren't actually transporting any fuel. Maybe that's a bit less efficient than a working asparagus but definitely better than making them go the wrong way.
The lander is actually a bit unstable so I have to stay a bit slow when ascending, I'll actually start turning slowly at 12000m and break mach 1 near 18000m. By 30000m I'm at a 45 degree angle and I'll thrust to an apoapsis near 60 km to meet the mother ship. I'll actually just share a video of me launching it for even more reference.
https://streamable.com/ngewe (this is one of my better attempts but still not good enough)