Dealing with superiors with bad attitude

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I find rudeness too frequent among people, especially coders and people who have a superior rank in a project, for me to not do anything about it while I am enjoying my web browsing.

While I am harshly generalizing, I can categorize these random rude people of the Internet into a few categories. This doesn't have to do anything with the particular people in this forum, and of course there are many rude people who don't fit in these categories.

• People whom English is not their first language. Perhaps they don't know how to formulate their requests for info more politely, or the nature of their first language is more brusque than English.
  
• People who are too proud. These kinds of people tick me off, because they do not understand that their project is a community effort. I see these people increasingly frequently; they often stubbornly reject important suggestions for features in widely used projects.
  
• People who have trouble working with others. "Sounds like another noob to me, please read docs bye."
  
• People who misunderstood your last message. UTF-8 does not by default embed any sort of emotion into messages, so you could take a remark either literally or sarcastically.
  

When I ask my friends how to deal with these kinds of people, they just instruct me to act inferior, say sorry.

"If you stop retaliating in an argument then you're literally handing your --- over to the guy."

Being inferior is worse than being polite because you are essentially conceding to everyone that you are an idiot who knows too little for anyone to even listen to. (Which you're not, if you took the IQ test.)

I am a very pacific person, so I tend to swerve out of arguments. What's worse, I have a poor defense, and usually these people have a higher "reputation" than me. I try saying nice things, they simply use it as a ground for affirming whatever position they have against me.

How do I deal with rude people?

[PakledHostage]

We're all human and our emotions/passions get the better of us sometimes. Sometimes you just have to cut people some slack. Especially people for whom English isn't their first language because, as you point out, emotion isn't easy to communicate in written language.

And if someone really is a [diminutive of Richard], it is usually pretty obvious to everyone else too. We'll inevitability see things your way if you stay polite and refuse to stoop to their level.

Edited May 24, 2015 by PakledHostage

[WinkAllKerb'']

to interact with any being i just stick to this pict .... metaphorically i mean ...

; )