Your heatshield will have the same temperature as the rest of your ship. The only reason it could be cooler than your ship is an active cooling system. An active cooling system will consume an awfull lot of energy, therefore you need a electric generator system. Electric production produce heat too, therefore your will have an enormous quantity of heat to radiate. If you want to radiate heat on the opposite direction of your heatshield it will cause a problem : big radiators are required. They will be so big that your ship will probably be big enough to be spotted on a classical radar. On the problem of thrust. It is not needed to thrust continuously to be spotted. Even a very small thrust can be spotted at very large distance. And you will have to do an insertion burn, which will never be a small burn. And that is assuming you have plan your trajectory way before entering the planetary system your target is in. But stealth is a combination of low detection chances and speed. If you are coasting in the direction of a planet, coming from another planet or another planetary system it will take months before you are at firing range. As time goes by, your chances to stay hidden are dropping (you will pass in front of a star with your gigantic-radiator-over-equipped ship for instance). An other issue is that to fire you will have to turn on your active sensor, revealing your position. And an orbital ship is far more vulnerable than a ground-based weapons system.