My 3m pod landers usually have a large first stage to get off the ground. Second stage completes orbit and gets to the target moon. Third stage is for deorbiting and landing. It has a large tank and fuel lines to take fuel from my return stage if necessary. The return stage is above the command module and uses 1m large tanks and the most efficient engines. I usually have enough fuel in the lander stage to land on the moon, go somewhere else on the moon, take off, and get back to Kerbin.