TheScareCake! Posted November 14, 2014 Share Posted November 14, 2014 (edited) Ok, here's the situation. My school is special, its national school of arts. In my case, i am a cellist with 9,5 years of experience. And we have our school's orchestra, you must attend it if youre at 9th grade or older. I have to sit with a cellist which is younger. His name is Kasper and, as i know him, he is a gamer. He often talks about League of legends with his best friend. But he's very childish and he pretends that he knows everything better than others. So, today, we were playing (its 1,5 hours long lesson). Our conductor was speaking with wind instrument players so i picked my phone and started answering the texts my girlfriend sent me. Then, Kasper started to say that im having no life, i am addicted to the phone and similar stuff i didnt hear. Also, he's always stating that he plays better than me (which is not true in my opinion, i have more experience). I said some normal comebacks but he started to mimmick me with his highly pitched voice. What to do? Im asking this because i have to sit with him every tuesday and friday.. Big thanks for reading and helping me in advance. Edited November 14, 2014 by TheScareCake! Just following the rules.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kerbart Posted November 14, 2014 Share Posted November 14, 2014 Never wrestle with a pig. The pig likes it and you get dirty.In other words: ignore, smile, by nice. Does he claim he plays better? Good. Ask him how he plays so well. Can he show some of his techniques? Maybe he can teach you? You seem to have problems with this part (play a very technical part you do actually very well), ask him to show you how to do it. He seems to thrive on countering your arguments, and you take the wind out of his sails if you don't. You don't have to prove anything to him, so why bother? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brethern Posted November 14, 2014 Share Posted November 14, 2014 I vote for ignore him, he'll eventually either leave you alone or start getting louder and louder and get himself into trouble. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LitaAlto Posted November 14, 2014 Share Posted November 14, 2014 I don't think ignoring bullying works--it only blames the victim for the bully's actions.But Kerbart has an excellent point. If he's so good, ask him for pointers. If he really IS good, it'll flatter him. If he ISN'T good, he won't be able to reply without more insults, at which point you can say, "OK, come back when you are ready to share." Put the onus on him to put up or shut up, but do it in a way that disarms him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZedNova Posted November 14, 2014 Share Posted November 14, 2014 Just smile, say "Oh really? Cool, why don't you show me how good you are? Maybe i could learn something.".Being nice is the last response people like this expect. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lajoswinkler Posted November 14, 2014 Share Posted November 14, 2014 As others said it, ignore the little brat. "Cool story, bro" - that works on them. He'll get worse, but that's only temporary. Once he realizes you're not backing up from your stance, he'll get tired. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skyler4856 Posted November 15, 2014 Share Posted November 15, 2014 Threaten to rip off his arms, and then to subsequently beat him with his arms. That always worked for me... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheDarkStar Posted November 15, 2014 Share Posted November 15, 2014 Threaten to rip off his arms, and then to subsequently beat him with his arms. That always worked for me...Or maybe don't do this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZedNova Posted November 15, 2014 Share Posted November 15, 2014 Threaten to rip off his arms, and then to subsequently beat him with his arms. That always worked for me...Brutal.Tenchars Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
astropapi1 Posted November 15, 2014 Share Posted November 15, 2014 Someone here on the forum used to have a quote on his signature that read something like:"Don't argue with an idiot, they'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience"Just ignore the kid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Camacha Posted November 15, 2014 Share Posted November 15, 2014 I don't think ignoring bullying works--it only blames the victim for the bully's actions.That is a false argument. No one is blaming anyone. Feeding a troll will only make it stronger. Just ignore, or be nice and polite. People who want a response hate nothing more than not getting it, which is true in both cases. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinkAllKerb'' Posted November 15, 2014 Share Posted November 15, 2014 "troll" became totally meaningless nowdays, at the early internet beggining it was meaning something, but now ... everyone is childish on some aspect, on some point, on some whatever, mostly what make us human and complementary where each of us have some lack. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheScareCake! Posted November 15, 2014 Author Share Posted November 15, 2014 And the fact that he is childish, that makes it more difficult to ignore his lack of attention for our teacher. I always have to silence him. Just remembered, his classmates once told me how he started to cry when he had to say a poem in front of the class last year...Anyway, thanks for the help, guys. Ill do what i can, its hard not to punch him.. :| I want this thread to be locked as i think there already are the best answers possible. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vanamonde Posted November 15, 2014 Share Posted November 15, 2014 Closed by OP's request. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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