So Long, And Thanks For Nothing

[Lisias]

5 hours ago, ColdJ said:

In hindsight I am guessing that they wished they had just withdrawn quietly.

Or, if the dude is the kind of Sun of a Beach some of the most intelligent people I know are, just monitoring who is who and taking notes...

 

5 hours ago, ColdJ said:

So what exactly are you gaining by by monitoring their activity and telling them they have done this before?

Exactly my point.

The interesting bits about this drama is:

1. There's nothing more to complain about except by pinpoint that they had burnt out before and posted something like that before?
   1. Really? This is all you guys care about?
2. Why it's so important to pinpoint the perceived user's fault and not the faults that leaded them to the outburst?
3. This sounds like a "straw-man", with people trying hard to hide the real problems that leaded to this outcome by criticizing the outcome, and not the events that leaded to it.

 

5 hours ago, ColdJ said:

It doesn't make things better, it just makes you sound childish and bullying.

At the same time that reveals who we are when nobody is looking. People don't waste time complaining about insignificant things (for them). If they care to complain about this thread is because this thread is disturbing them for some reason.

Since it's clear that they don't care about the OP, then it's clear that they are bothered by something he's doing - or, in this specific case, bothered by something being exposed as consequence of that the OP is doing.

When I was a kid, I remember I was sent to Principal due something bad I had done. There was that other kid that though I would just let him bully me forever, and one day I lost it and did to him 10 times fold what he was used to do with me - yeah, I was already like that when a kid.

I remember thinking "why I was sent to Principal the first time I did something like that while the other dude was repeatedly doing it to me unchecked?"  Then my uncle explained to me: it was because I was complaining to my teacher that was trying to handle things the best her authority allowed, while he gone crying loud and dramatically directly to the Principal.

Well, both of us got grounded in the end. But only one of us was bothered by it, and it wasn't me. Well... Perhaps just a bit...

But the lesson stuck: had I gone directly to the Principal, dramatically crying, I would not had been bullied for so much time.

 

5 hours ago, ColdJ said:

Remember we are members of this forum because it is far better and more civilised than the alternatives.

Please don't perpetuate the attitudes of those bad forums, here, in what should be a safe space.

Being the reason that turning this Forum into a circus would make that other places less worst, and so more acceptable.

There're people that, unable to make their own place better, use their efforts to make other's worst so they would not feel bad by comparing them - and/or prevent people from leaving their place to come to the better one.

Edited Sunday at 05:13 AM by Lisias
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[Bej Kerman]

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Wishing you well.

 

8 hours ago, ColdJ said:

Look. The poster was obviously upset when they posted this thread. They had a very bad experience, the type that many of us have had when we ask a simple question and get treated as if we are morons, while none of the people attacking bother to answer the question.

In hindsight I am guessing that they wished they had just withdrawn quietly.

So what exactly are you gaining by by monitoring their activity and telling them they have done this before?

It doesn't make things better, it just makes you sound childish and bullying.

Remember we are members of this forum because it is far better and more civilised than the alternatives.

Please don't perpetuate the attitudes of those bad forums, here, in what should be a safe space.

Many such cases. "Community member says complaints, replies are just people proving them right" is a common story on the Internet. Given that this forum isn't the petridish it used to be and has slowly been turning into an echochamber for our older, more jaded members (especially since KSP 2 caused the player count to slump and the subreddit is the go-to for newer players), I'm not surprised that a polite bye is a little too much to ask

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Okay, we've beaten this topic to death. Based on past history, the question of "Will Scarecrow71 stay or will they go?" is definitely up for debate, but this thread's done. It's run its course.