Help with Relationships Thread

[cubinator]

7 hours ago, NSEP said:

 

It's because human language is more complicated than C.

[steve_v]

13 hours ago, p1t1o said:

Dont refer to women as "females"

It's a scientifically and logically correct word, carries no negative connotations (or any at all for that matter), and it's a part of the english language. As such, I intend to use it exactly the same way I would use the counterpart "male".
If a female human asks that I not refer to her with those specific words (or any others for that matter), I will gladly respect her preferences. But you're not that, I'm not referring to you, and you are in no position to dictate my vocabulary, be it 2018 or 1908.

10 hours ago, NSEP said:

People can call me a Male Homo Sapien all they want, because that is exactly what i am!

This^. Enough with the carpet of eggshells PC nonsense already. A spade is a spade.

Edited April 20, 2018 by steve_v

[qzgy]

Female I guess just sounds more formal. But yeah it is correct without any negative connotations (unlike negro or similar slurs).

What if though they try to refer to themselves as identifying as a cheeseburger? What happens then?

help i might like someone. not sure when or what to say... *runs away into hiding*

[Piatzin]

33 minutes ago, qzgy said:

What if though they try to refer to themselves as identifying as a cheeseburger? What happens then?

I sexually identify as an attack helicopter

 

XD

[YNM]

15 hours ago, p1t1o said:

Dont refer to women as "females"

Why, because it has a "male" in it ?

Then "Women" also has "Men" in it.

Perhaps we should go back to Victorian era and get away with "Ladies" and "Gentlemen".

[Guest]

3 hours ago, YNM said:

Why, because it has a "male" in it ?

Then "Women" also has "Men" in it.

Perhaps we should go back to Victorian era and get away with "Ladies" and "Gentlemen".

This thread is like if r/niceguys and r/iamverysmart had a child

Edited April 20, 2018 by Guest

[steve_v]

4 hours ago, Aperture Science said:

This thread is like if r/niceguys and r/iamverysmart had a child

If I had ever seen either of those "r/" things (meaning reddit?), I might know what you're talking about.

OTOH, it's probably about time to forget about p1t1o's strange off topic intrusion and get back on topic... I'll leave you to it.

[YNM]

4 minutes ago, steve_v said:

(meaning reddit?)

Subreddit.

4 minutes ago, steve_v said:

get back on topic...

Help me ! Is having no relations and feeling just fine of it is OK ?

[Ultimate Steve]

Okay, so... Prom is tomorrow. I realize this is probably the wrong place to ask, but, any tips/advice?

[sh1pman]

22 minutes ago, Ultimate Steve said:

Okay, so... Prom is tomorrow. I realize this is probably the wrong place to ask, but, any tips/advice?

Good luck

[NSEP]

5 hours ago, Aperture Science said:

This thread is like if r/niceguys and r/iamverysmart had a child

r/verysmartniceguys? r/guysragingaboutPC?

someone has to make this a thing, just screen this thread, post it there, and boom. A kabillion upvotes. Jackpot.

55 minutes ago, Ultimate Steve said:

Okay, so... Prom is tomorrow. I realize this is probably the wrong place to ask, but, any tips/advice?

You are stepping into the unknown, prepare for the unexpected, anything can happend.

[Piatzin]

1 hour ago, Ultimate Steve said:

Okay, so... Prom is tomorrow. I realize this is probably the wrong place to ask, but, any tips/advice?

DON'T DIE!

[YNM]

1 hour ago, Ultimate Steve said:

Prom is tomorrow.

Which prom ? If it's this Prom I suggest a formal attire, if goes straight to the end prepare a colored cloth on a stick in the right way.

 

EDIT : If you mean school prom, not much difference. Probably not the colored cloth though.

Usually such things have a dress code right ?

Edited April 20, 2018 by YNM

[qzgy]

11 hours ago, Ultimate Steve said:

any tips/advice?

Bring phasers set to stun. If you have a Significant Other, shield from view/enemy fire. Also be prepared to evac immediately

My actual (theoretical/hypothetical advice) would be actually to just go have fun and enjoy yourself. And maybe not dance too much if you can avoid it. IDK though never been to a prom.... (some school dances sure but not a prom...)

[Vanamonde]

Return to the topic, please. This is turning into the kind of discussion which goes bad and gets threads locked. 

[Piatzin]

Guys I think our advice/suggestions peeve Vanamonde ^

You must realize most of us here are teenagers so there's bound to be some immaturity and random conversation. And sarcasm

Edited April 29, 2018 by Earthlinger

[p1t1o]

On my comment on "females":

I didnt write the rules, and given that its a highly complex and fraught subject, I dont want to attempt to try and put it in writing (Ill make some kind of mistake and horribly offend someone), I can only say I kinda get it. Does anyone really want to die on this hill?

At the end of the day though, there are only very few things you cannot say, as long as you treat people with appropriate respect and dignity. It was advice to be taken or left, Im fearful of derailing the thread with a messy discussion of gender politics.

 

On 4/20/2018 at 6:24 AM, steve_v said:

It's a scientifically and logically correct word

And so is "human with internal genitalia" but that would get you some strange looks, and very few dates

Edited April 24, 2018 by p1t1o

[Piatzin]

2 hours ago, p1t1o said:

And so is "human with internal genitalia" but that would get you some strange looks, and very few dates

Ah

That explains it...

[NSEP]

I want to regain contact with my ex-crush. But i don't know what to say. I don't want to sound like i am a clingy boy, im pretty sure she is sick and tired of my failed attempt at love, and i don't want her to think im back at it again. She probably hates me for that, and i don't want to hurt or annoy her in any way, i just want to regain contact a little. Im not trying to regain love, just contact.

I have a feeling she has been saying negative things about me to her friends. She occasionally speaks to people while staring at me, wich makes me nervous, i don't know what the falcon they are talking about, but its definitly me. I really hope she doesn't spread false information around.

[qzgy]

On 4/24/2018 at 3:49 PM, NSEP said:

I want to regain contact with my ex-crush. But i don't know what to say. I don't want to sound like i am a clingy boy, im pretty sure she is sick and tired of my failed attempt at love, and i don't want her to think im back at it again. She probably hates me for that, and i don't want to hurt or annoy her in any way, i just want to regain contact a little. Im not trying to regain love, just contact.

I have a feeling she has been saying negative things about me to her friends. She occasionally speaks to people while staring at me, wich makes me nervous, i don't know what the falcon they are talking about, but its definitly me. I really hope she doesn't spread false information around.

Have you just tried sending a simple "Hey just wanna be friends pls don't murder me"? IDK, that might help. Though, it could also depend alot on people and how they think. Most of the people who I know might be open to that, though I don't know how the people you know would react.....

[XB-70A]

On 4/24/2018 at 3:49 PM, NSEP said:

I want to regain contact with my ex-crush.

About 10 years ago I "discovered" an extremely risky strategy: being with someone else. Potentially leading to some jealousy at the highest level... the best being that a bit earlier, my "ex" was at the time with another guy, but she latter told me that she went with him to make me jealous, how ironic as it didn't work on me 

You could try to be as natural as possible and go to meet her. I know, it's so easy to tape it on a keyboard instead of doing it, but trust me, at least it will give you a stronger base to rely on. Never ignore that you, and anybody else around on this pale blue dot, are not able to read the minds, and that what you are sensing, and "processing" is, in most of the cases, not the absolute "truth".

 

Honestly, I can't remember how many adults told me as a kid that the high-school years were the best of all, and how we should enjoy them as much as possible... and for now they were the worst of my whole life xD  Stupid years where some of us were always trying to make it complicated while it could have been simple.

---

More personally and about the topic, I recently (and for the first time in almost four years) felt something for someone at the university I'm going to (a super hard situation to be honest). Can you guess what I did? Nothing. Awful, but it's the end of the semester here, and I will be unavailable for the summer... 

Edited April 29, 2018 by XB-70A
Too many edits to be precise...

[MaverickSawyer]

Heh. I stayed single until I hit college. No high school drama for me.

 

As for advice... One rule I've always stuck to is this: "Don't mix business and pleasure." I.E., don't date a coworker. I've seen some truly horrible breakups, made worse by the fact that you still have to work with your ex and be at least somewhat polite to them.

[ARS]

My relationship... Uuuh... How do I say it? I've experienced breakup at least 9 times, mainly because of my awkward reaction of not knowing what's supposed to do with my couple (back then, I'm on the day where no one has known what internet is, then once it's introduced, suddenly lovers popping up everywhere like mushrooms after the rainfall, with a slogan that basically says "if you don't have a crush, you're suck/ a loser")

I admit, I started my relationship quite early in my life (about when I'm started my junior/ senior high school) but still, even after 9 years (and 9 breakups) I simply said "alright, screw this"

Right now I'm turned into a hermit. I love doing science and experiment, and I spend my life drowned in my science activity alone, which is mostly consisted of 3D designing, astronomy and biology. Dunno when I can have a couple, but at this point, I don't really care

Just saying

[Piatzin]

3 hours ago, MaverickSawyer said:

As for advice... One rule I've always stuck to is this: "Don't mix business and pleasure." I.E., don't date a coworker. I've seen some truly horrible breakups, made worse by the fact that you still have to work with your ex and be at least somewhat polite to them.

I still don't get why people hate their exes so much. I mean, unless you have horrible judgement and/or only went for looks, if you're in a relationship with someone, you're inevitably going to have to know them before, and you're going to have to like that person as a person and friend before getting into a relationship, right? Why is there so much hate the moment you or the other or both decide you're not right for each other?

[XB-70A]

10 hours ago, ARS said:

Just saying

Really interesting to read as I nearly got the same experience. The sole difference being the number of breakups... 15 to be precise (this without counting the "super short stories")

Every time it was the same story, I was not giving enough care to the ones asking for, and too much care to the ones who were independents...

Still, the irony being that I never made the first step in all these cases, except on a single occasion and I got rejected    O Irony, you are terrible.

 

Now, I haven't been with anybody (not even for a single day/night) since 2014. I don't really know why, but I'm simply not feeling like being "in the need" of any adventures with someone else since then. Even if my relatives and friends are always telling me their annoying "did you see how she was looking at you?!" every time I'm walking with them... desperate moves and stories when you simply don't care about.

Also, Aviation with ever stay my sole and only true love.

Edited April 30, 2018 by XB-70A